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Lauren J. Hellkamp

Is Decision Fatigue Getting The Best of You?

I read something the other day that said to avoid making decisions when tired. While I can appreciate this, I have to say, since this pandemic started, I am just…TIRED. Yet here I am, an adult person, having to make decisions anyway.  The pandemic has taken decision-making to a whole new level. We are having…

Why Multitasking Is Not A Real Thing

You know that feeling you get when you open up your internet browser and there are just SO MANY TABS open? Does it ever feel like that’s your brain sometimes? We live in a world where we want to do all the things, know all the things, and think about all the things…and we want…

Stop ‘Should-ing’ Yourself

The word “should” is by far my least favorite word. Time and time again, I hear people say they “should” feel this way or they “should” do this or that thing. Most of the time, these “should’s” lead us to one place – we should be better, and we are not measuring up in some…

Are You People-Pleasing?

People-pleasing is not about just being nice or helpful to others. People-pleasing is putting other people’s needs before your own, neglecting your own needs in order to satisfy others. Over time, people-pleasing is likely to lead you to feeling resentful of others, feel taken advantage of, and lead to increased stress because you are taking…

Your Thoughts Are Not Facts

You are not your thoughts. Thoughts are not facts. Thoughts are mental events that pop up in our minds, whether we like it or not, or whether we want them there or not. However, we have a tendency to treat our every thought as though it is the absolute truth. When a thought bothers us,…

How is Toxic Positivity Impacting Your Life?

For some reason in our society, we have a “good vibes only” mentality. Let me be clear, I do love good vibes, but sometimes, my vibes are not good. Sometimes, my vibes are a bit shit. And that is okay. It is important to normalize ALL the feelings, not just the ones we label as…

How to Move Through Pandemic Re-Entry Anxiety

After over a year of restrictions during the COVID-19 pandemic, the world is beginning to open up and people are experiencing all kinds of different emotions. Some are feeling a sense of relief that we are starting to move forward, some are reluctant to make forward moves because they feel it is not quite time, and some…

Is Perfectionism Getting The Best Of Me?

It took me longer than I care to admit to think of how to word that title. Why, you ask? Perfectionism.  It is not a perfect title. But does it get the job done? Yes.  Does this sound familiar? Do you try to be the perfect, people-pleasing, “everyone has to like me” human? Have you…

What To Expect at Your First Therapy Session

The first time you meet with a therapist, it can feel extremely uncomfortable. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong! There aren’t a lot of spaces in our lives for us to freely talk about ourselves, process our thoughts and feelings, and have someone to truly listen and want to hear it all. Making the…


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